I talked to my husband's lawyer today.
bleh. that was not fun.
He is agreeing to almost all constraints I have on the divorce for it to be uncontested/no fault. However he asked for 3K and also asked to have the washing machine and dryer back.
That actually pissed me off a LOT.
First - he's living with his parents. what the F is he going to do with another w/d ???
second - it was a wedding gift. actually the money that was used to buy it was a wedding gift.
third - i spent the time buying it
fourth - i spent the time installing it!
fifth - i spent the time teaching him how to use it!
and now he wants to take it.
I said no way. I said "That's ridiculous. That is mine, and will remain in my home. If he wants it back, as it was paid for by wedding gift money, then he can give me the 10k that the wedding cost, since he walked out on the marriage. And he can pay me the $300 a month that I'm paying for his health insurance, that I can't get rid of until the divorce is final."
The lawyer said that he didn't think he'd have any issue with letting me keep the w/d.
Oh and I said no i'm not giving him a single dime of my money either. He left, he agreed he didn't deserve anything, and nothing is exactly what he's getting. Period. I said I was completely inflexible on that.
ASS!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Okay - am faxing you a tall cool pitcher of water. Suitable for drinking, dumping wherever, what-not. :D
ReplyDeleteCheck your Inbox for what I *think* is going on. Short version, this could be an opportunity for you. Best wishes.
Hey, it is Lone Star Daughter from MM.
ReplyDeleteI don't like suggesting this but could he already have a place picked out and wants the washer and dryer and the money to get set up in the new place?
Ghamica - it's ok to suggest something.
ReplyDeleteNo I know he is living with his folks. He doesn't have a job. I don't know how he'd be able to afford it. Well I take that back, he has his disability income... so I guess he would be able to afford it. *shrug*
I think that someone in his family just told him he should get it back, and so he decided to ask for it.
And why a washer/dryer of all things? The money I understand, but not the W/D.
ReplyDeleteAgain, I don't want to cause pain, but I have been through this. Are you sure there isn't someone else waiting in the wings?
ReplyDeleteAgain, please know that I am not wanting to cause you any anguish. But having been part of a divorce support group, 99% of the time men leave, they already have someone else.
Please be prepared.
ghamica - no idea. i know he's been emotionally unfaithful to me. who knows if he has some broad waiting in the wings.
ReplyDeleteThere is nothing I can do about it.
Will it make me want to puke and cry and die all at the same time if/when I see him with another woman? Absolutely. But I will cry,a nd I will get over it, because I will realize that I am better off, and the poor girl has her hands full.
He's still wearing his wedding ring.
Now how long he'll wait until he finds someone after he's divorced, no idea.
I know that he's told me he doesn't want to be with anyone else for a long time, he wants to focus on himself and his school and his daughter.
do i believe him?
I don't know.
Do I care?
Not really... not that much anymore. somewhat sure but.... not like I did before. not like I thought I would for a very long time.
Sounds like a healthy attitude about it.
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